Positivity – Bert Oliva

I Don’t Like Me When I’m Angry

By Bert Oliva

22
FEB

I have to admit, I get angry at times. There are moments when something happens or someone does something, and I get upset. I’m human. Anger is a normal emotional response to things. If you have ever met someone who says they do not get angry ever, then they are probably not being honest with themselves.

However, when I was younger, I would hold onto my anger in a righteous manner. I would almost feed my grudge until it was larger than it originally was. It would take my energy for days and ruin my mood and even affect those around me. The worst part was, when I would run across the person who had so upset me to begin with days or weeks later, they were usually fine and going on with their life. I was the one who was stuck in the black hole of my own negativity.

We are all composed of energy. And unfortunately, negativity seems to affect us more easily and longer than positivity. That is, it tends to take more positivity and more awareness on our part to focus on the positive to combat all the negativity that is around us every day. This is even more vital if we are creating and feeding that own negativity within ourselves.

The Buddha is quoted as saying, “Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.” Holding onto anger truly only affects the one holding onto it. The other people can choose to move on with their lives, but in order for you to, you must let it go.

PowerTools™
1) Are you holding onto any grudges right now? If so, it’s time to let it go. Realize it is in the past and focus on the positive.

2) The next time you get upset, allow yourself to feel it but then let it go. Do not feed the anger or keep making it bigger in your head. Remember, not everything will go your way all the time and that is okay.

3) For the next 21 days, wake up each morning and say one thing you are grateful for. Throughout the day, focus on that positive thing.

Live Life,
Bert Oliva

This Is The Week!

By Bert Oliva

11
AUG

This is the week where the relationships you have wanted to rekindle or strengthen start happening.

This is the week where you are opening your eyes and viewing things in a way you have not in a very long time.

All success begins with a positive mindset. If you are not in a positive mindset, you are setting yourself up for failure and a lot of pain and disappointment. Stop. Make this your week.

I read an article recently by Marwan Jamal entitled “10 Things Highly Productive People Don’t Do.” It’s an excellent read. Though I love the entire list, my favorite is “3. They don’t sabotage themselves.” Everyone is human and everyone is not “perfect” or as productive as they can be every day. The difference between highly productive people and less productive people is that those who are highly productive do not beat themselves up over their mishaps. They simply focus on the positive and move forward.

This is the kind of positive mindset we should all strive for this week. Stop self-sabotaging. Stop focusing on the bad and start focusing on what is coming to you this week. Foster a deep belief within yourself that everything is coming together for you. Focus on what you are attracting. The good things, events, and people that are coming into your life. This is your week.

PowerTools™
1) Train Your Brain: One of my favorites tools that I use personally to help me focus on the positive and keep my mind open to attracting the good things in life are affirmations. An affirmation is a positive phrase you repeat to yourself which describes how you want to be. The idea behind this is that you focus your mind on these positive thoughts, curbing your negative thoughts. And the more you focus on these positive thoughts, the more you will attract positivity into your life. Make a list of three affirmations for yourself. They can be as simple as “This is my week,” “I am confident,” etc.

2) Write It Down: Write these affirmations down on at least 3 cards and place them in various areas where you will see them often: your bathroom mirror, in your car, in your desk drawer at work, etc.

3) Repetition is Key: Every time you see one of these cards, repeat your affirmations to yourself. If possible, repeat them out loud. Our words are incredibly powerful. And the words we speak aloud even more so. Every time you speak your affirmations, feel yourself already acting or being what is on your card. Know that you are attracting positivity in your life.

Live Life,
Bert Oliva

Words To Live By

By Bert Oliva

28
JUL

Times are tough. Everyone is struggling with something. Bills. Illness. Stress. So much more.

All of these things linger in the backgrounds of our minds and cause us to second-guess ourselves. They distract us and shake our faith.

This loss of faith can be very subtle. You keep taking every step. Making every call. Doing everything you are supposed to do, but not with the right energy, so you don’t get the right results. Subconsciously, you’re waiting to fail. You’re self-sabotaging.

Worse yet, these background distractions aren’t going anywhere. There will always be another bill, another to-do, another unwelcomed surprise.

It’s time to change our focus from the background to the foreground. It’s time for each of us to come from a united knowing, an absolute certainty, that utter success, stability, and everything else we each want is coming to us.

Instead of questioning why you are here in this place and what you did to deserve this, look at it from the other perspective. It’s amazing where you are right now. Look at everything you have accomplished. Look at the skills you have polished and learned.

The fact that you have survived everything you have gone through, especially with all of your self-doubt, is amazing and speaks to your character and also to God’s plan for you. Lesser people would have given up by now.

Stop making excuses and stop looking for quick fixes. Create your goal, one single goal, and focus on it. Do it positively, with certainty, and without doubt, and you will achieve it.

Work on creating an atmosphere of positivity around you, of attracting success. Start looking at each of your tasks not as stresses, burdens, or futile things that won’t work, but rather as building blocks—stairs that you are climbing to bring success in.

Now is not the time for hope. It’s the time for faith. Faith in the world, in your team, in yourself. Failure is not even a possibility.

PowerTools™
1) Write down what is in the background of your mind. Any worries or stresses your subconscious mind may be putting attention to. Oftentimes simply writing down what is on your mid will bring you clarity and help you to realize not everything is as bad as you have made it out to be.

2) If there is anything that you can do to lessen the burden of these worries, do it. Stop putting it off. Take action. If you can not take action right now, allow yourself to put these items on hold for the moment. Do not put any attention towards them until you have accomplished what you need to do today.

3) Now that your background distractions are literally out of your mind, it’s time to focus on the here and now. What do you need to do today? Do not set yourself up for failure. If you have been struggling to accomplish all of the tasks you have set for yourself each day, cut down the number of tasks, etc. Or split larger tasks into to smaller, easier tasks. This will set you up to achieve, which will put you in a positive state of mind.

Live Life,
Bert Oliva

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I Don’t Like Me When I’m Angry

This Is The Week!

Words To Live By