identity – Bert Oliva

This Is It

By Bert Oliva

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FEB

What do you want? When was the last time you took a moment and asked yourself that question? And truly answered it? It is now the second month of the New Year. What have you accomplished so far? What have you already given up on?

Take some time today and evaluate where you are. What are your biggest goals? What do you feel you have already achieved? Do not let other’s ideas of you or your past view of yourself to identify you. Only you can know who you are and what is truly in your heart. Get to know the person you are currently.

Once you know who you are and what you want, make a plan for yourself. A real one. Not one that is dramatic or unachievable. If you want to lose 40 pounds, don’t plan on losing 10 this week. Work towards one. Setting yourself up for failure is one of the least productive things you can do.

Every day represents a new day to start and to move forward. Do not allow yesterday’s perceived mistakes to affect what you are doing today. Yet do not allow the excuse of you can try again tomorrow to justify you not working on yourself, your goals, and your life today. Yesterday is gone, but tomorrow is not promised. Today is all you have. So what will you do with it?

Live Life,
Bert Oliva

Identity Crisis

By Bert Oliva

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APR

Are you an identity thief? Do you have multiple identities that you slip into depending on whom you’re around? Are you the good boy or girl with your parents while you’re the stern scary boss at work or the outgoing fun one when you’re out with your friends?

How many different personas do you have in your wallet? How often do you switch between them throughout the day? Do you even know which one is the true you anymore? Or are you in an identity crisis?

It’s time for you to be you and be the best you, you can be. Stop allowing society, circumstances, and the people around you to dictate who you are and what you do. Life is too short to live under the restrictions of other people’s expectations.

Throw out those false identities and half-truths. Just be you. Those people that matter and are true friends will respect and love you more. And you will be happier than you ever knew possible.

PowerTools™
1) Who are you? Write down who you are, what you stand for. Write this using the third person to help you get distance from yourself and the most out of the exercise. (For instance, instead of me writing “I am a…,” I would write “Bert is a…”)

2) Realize this “definition” of you that you just wrote down is fluid. It will change as you grow. Go back to this definition and refine it often. Each time will give you a clearer picture of yourself.

3) Whenever you find yourself in a situation where you are tempted to slip back into an old persona, look at your definition. Ask, “What would this person do in this situation?” Do it.

Live Life,
Bert Oliva

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This Is It

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