Do you enjoy being uncomfortable? Nearly everyone would say “No.” In fact, biologists would most likely argue that our DNA is programmed to keep us out of uncomfortable situations. Usually, when we are uncomfortable, we try to get away from that feeling as quickly as possible. We may put headphones in, find ourselves pacing or fidgeting, or even just look for a distraction through turning on the TV or focusing elsewhere.
This tends to be human behavior and we all do it at least from time to time. However, my challenge to you this week is to pause when you find yourself feeling uncomfortable. Feel the moment. Allow yourself to be fully awake and present in your discomfort for at least a few seconds. Ask yourself, “Why am I uncomfortable? What is the reason for my desire to get out of this situation so quickly? What is it that I want to do to get away from this feeling?”
These questions will not take you very long to answer and your answers may surprise you. This moment of self-refection will give you a lot of insight. You may discover that you are afraid of the unknown, but by sitting for a moment in your discomfort, you may realize that the situation is not actually unknown. Or perhaps you may realize your go-to distraction is to eat or surf the web; it’s no wonder you’ve been gaining weight lately or have been less productive. Etc.
This is why self-reflection is so vital and unfortunately in today’s modern world, we seem to expect to feel good all of the time and always be busy. However, times of not feeling good and not being so busy are important to us as well. These are the moments when we can see what we need to work on, what our true motivations are, and where we can make small changes to improve our overall lives.
Stop running away from feeling uncomfortable. Stop hiding from these moments. Instead, embrace them and explore the reasons behind your feelings. Every moment of discomfort is an invitation to get to know yourself and your motivations better. Start accepting the invitation.
Live Life,
Bert Oliva
Quote This:
“Whatever makes you uncomfortable is your biggest opportunity for growth.”
~Bryant McGill